What to do when the abuser is also abused

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What to do when the abuser is also abused

California’s domestic violence laws include a variety of offenses and a variety of punishments. They can be charged as felonies or misdemeanors depending upon the extent of the violence and whether the complaining witness suffered an injury. The offenses include disputes between any intimate partners, whether or not the couple remains together. These partners may be married, cohabiting, have children in common, be divorced or separated, dating or formerly dating. The laws apply to both heterosexual couples and same-sex partnerships.

It is the very nature of these intimate relationships that give rise to highly charged, emotional disputes that can often spiral quickly out of control. Because the state is so strict with intimate partner abuse offenders, a conviction for domestic violence can jeopardize the offender’s family, career and freedom. Domestic violence statistics reveal that many times, there is not one true victim and one true offender in an abusive relationship, but that frequently, both partners abuse each other.

It is most often the case that when the police respond to a domestic abuse call, the person who called will be labeled the “victim” and the partner will be labeled the “abuser or batterer.” In most instances, the police rely on that assumption and then arrest the abuser, who, in a heterosexual relationship, is usually the man. As previously stated, however, there are times when the abuser has also been a victim of the abuse and, despite our society’s stereotypes, men are frequently abused in a number of ways by their female partners. When the abuser has also been abused, it is critical that he or she hire a criminal defense lawyer who will not only tell the accused’s side of the story but who will make sure that the judge and/or jury believe it as well. The attorneys at The Kavinoky Law Firm will do just that.

The experienced attorney will work closely with a private investigator to gather evidence that supports the accused’s side of the story. Evidence includes witness statements about the incident, medical reports, dated photographs of any injuries that the defendant sustained, police reports, weapons used by the partner, pictures of the home after the violent episode, household objects that were torn or broken by the partner, calls made to 911, and certified copies of the defendant’s partner’s criminal record. After this evidence is collected, the lawyer will devise the most effective strategy for not only defending the accused’s actions during the incident, but to highlight the fact that he or she was also a victim of the abuse and of the criminal justice system.

Additionally, if the defendant is in fear for his or her own safety, an experienced attorney can help that individual obtain an appropriate restraining order. A criminal lawyer will also help educate his or her client that if the partner violates the order, that partner will also face criminal charges. There is no reason why anyone needs to live in fear.

The well-qualified attorneys from The Kavinoky Law Firm are familiar with every aspect of a California domestic violence case and have successfully helped guide countless defendants through the criminal court process with compassion and respect. Click here for a free consultation.